How women keep THE MAN for them Away

“You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar

Allow me to paraphrase that for single women:

You will get all you want from men in your life if you help enough men to get what they want.

So many women are waiting, waiting, waiting for the perfect guy to show up and give them what they want. I see women who go out on dates waiting for some guy to ‘impress them’ enough to qualify for their real gifts.

Does this work?

During this time, the woman is:

• Withholding her true beauty
• Withholding her natural ability to comfort
• Withholding her natural ability to inspire
• Withholding her natural ability to nurture
• Blocking her natural ability to provide other viewpoints and insights
• Limiting a large amount of her intrapersonal contributions that she could be making to the world

Like a miser hoarding his gold, she sits atop her gifts waiting to find the man who deserves this all.

Like Jesus said, if you don’t use your talents, you lose them! Through disuse, all of the support, love and contribution she could be giving slowly atrophies—no wonder no noble knight comes along to slay the dragons guarding her heart for this treasure!

So, what can she do instead?

Cultivate and practice:

• Gracing the world with her natural internal and external beauty
• Her ability to comfort
• Her ability to inspire
• Her ability to nurture
• Sharing her energy and viewpoints and insights

With guys who don’t deserve it. With men who could never qualify for all of those gifts.

Women hold fantastic abilities to transform the world, if they will use them. In the next article, I will talk about some ways a woman can do this without compromising herself, her boundaries, or her ideals.

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Ryan works with power and sexuality to help people get what they want.

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